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The incredible true story of one woman's journey to relocate the place inside herself where strength, hope, and personal truth reside.After Hurricane Katrina, Alice Anderson has returned home to assess the damage to her beloved Mississippi coastline and the once-immaculate home she'd carefully cultivated for her husband, Dr. Liam Rivers, one of the community's highly respeThe incredible true story of one woman's journey to relocate the place inside herself where strength, hope, and personal truth reside.After Hurricane Katrina, Alice Anderson has returned home to assess the damage to her beloved Mississippi coastline and the once-immaculate home she'd carefully cultivated for her husband, Dr. Liam Rivers, one of the community's highly respected doctors.But in the wake of this natural disaster, a more terrifying challenge emerges as Liam's mental health spirals out of control, culminating in a violent attack at knifepoint, from which Alice is saved by their three-year-old son. Afraid for her life, she flees with her children.What ensues is an epic battle--emotional, psychological, spiritual, and legal--for her children's welfare, for self-preservation, and ultimately for redemption. It's an unrelenting battle that persists even as life goes on, finally coming full circle when the same son who saved Alice ten years before endures an eerily-familiar violent encounter at his father's hands. Yet even as she confronts the harsh realities of high-powered Southern lawyers and an inadequate legal system, Alice forges a new life with her blossoming children and an ultimate reclamation of her true self....

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Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly Away: A Memoir Reviews

  • Jeanette
    2019-03-21 12:06

    No review. And I will not rate this. The writing skill and style (both) were so poor that I could not continue this long enough to evaluate its content properly. But the Prologue was a definite clue that even if I further tried to decipher her "scars", I would still not be able to understand her adjectives. Or the context to her spurts of universal style ire either. Not for me in any aspect. Perfect example of why you can't always go on the star levels of others as a general rule for guidance to picking reads unless you have specific knowledge for their reads and taste levels. At least in a wider sense of where the scales are.

  • Diane Yannick
    2019-03-14 08:18

    This memoir is freaking amazing. Alice simultaneously battles two demons—Hurricane Katrina and her husband. Dr. Liam Rivers (pseudonym to protect the guilty) is by far her most formidable opponent. Damage from nature is more definable than damage that lurks around dark corners. Alice uses her poetic skills to turn a nightmare into a work of art. It is definitely not for those who dislike raw stories that are not pretty. Alice started life with a dad whose sexual abuse consumed “all the best parts of me until I was nothing but a pretty, performing doll.” This can take away the self-protective instincts that help a woman to make healthy choices later in life. (My dad was mentally abusive, which doesn’t even compare to sexual abuse, yet I got married the second I graduated from college. More than love, my goal was to get away from him.) From all appearances, Alice had chosen wisely. Liam was a much respected doctor with the charisma to con many. Within six years Alice had her “ sweet three”— the beautiful children she yearned for. Living in a FEMA trailer was nothing compared to living with Liam’s bursts of violence. His children often witnessed —and were even victims of—his violent outbursts yet the family courts kept giving him more chances. Although Alice is fair in her portrayal of the court system in the south, I found the rampant sexism to be infuriating. A goal of “family reunification” was absurd based on his actions. This family is extremely lucky that no one was killed before justice was FINALLY meted out. I want to personally wish Alice and her ‘sweet three’ peaceful and productive lives filled with many joyful moments.

  • Donna Hines
    2019-03-08 09:11

    "The family courts are broken at best, abusive by nature."- No truer words ever spoken.Who would help me and would they help me? Would they see my story as credible, believable, reliable ? The perpetrator says he'll do anything to keep me silenced including death and that if I told anybody that nobody would believe me . Tell me this isn't so....These questions and comments are often what so many victims and survivors face daily in survival mode.I was so happy to see this book on New Releases Shelf at my library that I snatched it up yesterday and didn't let go till I read it in it's entirety. While I was reading the sun shined bright an omen if you will since we've not seen the sun here in NEPA for several days but now I bring you this review in hopes of doing it justice in regards to "Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly Away: A Memoir."I've read many books over the course of my own abusive relationship and now council other victims of NPD and Domestic Violence on my own page, The Lost Self Life After Narcissism. As a dv and NPD survivor I've already dealt with divorce custody, visitation, and Protection Orders resulting in ICC violation arrest. Four long years of court battles to get divorced, 3 attorneys later, bankruptcy, LT unemployment having giving up career for childrearing, and poverty now is my new world. It's not too often you find a book that discusses in explicit detail your exact feelings and emotions and brings you back to that one faithful night you packed it all up and let in your hopes for brighter days and dare I say freedom. That constant living on eggshells, paranoia, fear, flight or fight response is draining and emptying and leaves victims soul searching and wondering just who they really are underneath it all. Alice does a remarkable job at putting readers in the present and seeing and feeling what's like to be a victim and survivor in such a way that is uncanny , as being so candid and heartfelt while allowing hope on this long journey.Alice mentioned that many of us with similar scars can sense perhaps with our empathy another survivor. I sensed this the minute I began reading and knew the truth was what Alice wrote.Her words speak upon the heartache , the terror, the non stop threats, the defense maneuvers needed against false accusations, the broken legal system and family courts that need updating with skilled/trained professionals.This novel is quite frankly a work of art that must be required reading in every school, university, family court, judges chambers, and dv shelter, police department around the world.Alice is a warrior, thriver, survivor who survived domestic violence while obtaining full custody of her children. Alice lived through Hurricane Katrina in Mississippi yet that storm was nothing compared to the storm brewing at home and in her marriage. Her children were her life and yet she was facing losing them from a man who would stop at nothing to destroy her. Her struggles carry strength. Her resolve builds character. Her empathy to help others provides healing.In the wake of the destruction left behind we must recover, rebuild, fly our wings. Rebuild after abuse and rebuild in the eyes of our children ,ourselves. and our community. Recovery is not something that happens overnight. We do not simply go to court, fight for our rights, and our awarded nicely for our efforts. We must continue the good fight for everyone else who has lost the battle.This is a constant battle of he/she said and attorneys lining their pockets while the abusers are afforded every luxury that money and power can offer to them. Many of these abusers have the power, wealth, connections to buy justice and often they will make every attempt to win. Dr. Liam Rivers was quite well respected. He was a force to be reckoned with. He was someone who had the means to destroy the lives of anyone in his path. He used every available opportunity at his disposal. Children in many cases of abuse are dispensable to abusers. These kids are mere extensions to be molded and crafted to appease the abuser casting him/her in a favorable light to society at large.Abusers know how to win at all cost. They wish to also destroy at all costs those they leave behind in their wake of rage, wrath, and fury. Family courts are afraid to step on the rights of either parent and force separation. They want to repair the broken connection between parent and child forgetting that some toxic individuals will never change nor be remorseful and seek to admit their own faults and failures.The scars must heal through time, space, love, and recovery. Inner healing should begin addressing the battle scars or in this case the "chapel of scars" that bind us together. Society views domestic violence as taboo. It's not often discussed openly and it's the victim not the abuser that's ostracized and ridiculed and told to stop seeking pity.The name of the game is to play take away. Take away the rights of the victim to keep him/her locked into silence. Take away funding, transportation, connections, friendships, power, career, children, housing, safety, and security of those in the innermost circle. Take away everything one needs to survive including the basics. Pretend the victim is the problem. Label the victim as the crazy one, the psycho, the delusional one who needs help rather than address the real problem the abuser. Put a band aid using a pfa rather than be proactive instead of reactive to the abuse already occurring behind closed doors. We should not wait for death or serious bodily injury and have to prove away our abuse simply to be given protection. If the abuse is evident we must stop it immediately before it escalates in severity.Isolation, abandonment, intimidation, false accusations, bribes, threats, manipulation, deceit, trickery it's all part of the abusers m.o. (modus operandi).As in my case his attorney told me I deserved abuse after he was arrested and charge with violation of protection order. My abuser then filed special relief ( an illegal maneuver) to try to regain possession of his own home. While we awaited support accruing to over $15,000 the judge awarded our abuser our home and 21,000 in repayment since our abuser was kind enough to pay on the home we were forced to vacate after our power was turned off while awaiting support. While we awaited some financial assistance in form of support he paid his property taxes and took out the next victim to dinner on our behalf. Our first payment was $100 this after waiting 1 1/2 yrs living on credit and eating at local playgrounds for free. When you have documents and evidence and the court disregards your voice even with legal representation you know you have a major problem. Women and children are seen as second class citizens and treated improperly in our family courts.The courts are backwards and not just in Mississippi. Family courts view civil cases of divorce and protection orders as simply "a number game" " a docket". These judges have no experience dealing with personality trait disorders or highly toxic and high conflict cases. Courts lack funding and training to process these cases effectively and sadly victims have no recourse but to wait until something happens such as a death before something is done to assist them.Our children's lives are at stake. Families are being torn apart. Abusers are being given more and more freedoms while the rights of every victim/survivor are being slowly taken away and something needs to be done .We cannot continue to allow this vicious cycle of violence to continue without speaking out . I remember filing over 15 exceptions after my abuser lied about not being able to pay support and after producing every document to disapprove his inaccuracies my case was simply stamped "DENIED" and I received notification by mail.Alice truly is amazing and so many of her words ring true. For those who were abused you know that certain things may trigger you. You know that abusers will try to illicit a response from you even if negative one as this feeds their insatiable source of supply. Here are just some of Alice words that spoke to me on a more personal level: " He'll do everything he can to destroy you." "But there's no way Liam could get custody-he tried to kill me." "Liam was erasing me. Soon I'd no longer exist". "I was busy with everyday life." "It actually says in the report that he says," This is all my ex-wife's fault." "A father does not tell you your mother is crazy and call her names." " We have a father we know to hide from." "Gone were the days of Liam's perfectionism and unpredictable rages."Alice was abused by her father, her husband, and the very system meant to protect her from it all. Yet she conquered! She didn't wallow in self pity, she didn't get bitter, she simply got better.I can recall vividly the butcher knife my abuser kept in his office. I can recall vividly the night he went after me and busted our bedroom door off the hinges. I can recall the day I said no more and made the initial call for help. I can recall the day he walked out the door led by police to his apartment as we were granted exclusive possession from his abuse.Gaslighting , hovering, love bombing, projection, mirroring and more it's all so sickening and so common. These are mental mind games used to wear down the victims physical and mental well being.When I read about how could strangers decide your fate and how ill equipped these strangers are to make these monumental decisions I was taken back to my own case. My domestic relations officer was a basketball coach not quite someone I'd expect to decide my finances. My court judge once asked me why I wouldn't sit next to my abuser. I later learned he had a connection to the judge years earlier through orphan court when I learned he had given up not one but two children prior to marriage for adoption. I sat shaking my knees uncontrollably from 13yrs of abuse as he said this unable to maintain eye contact and living in fear. You know if you say one thing the abuser dislikes you will have hell to pay for years to come. They use smear campaigns to tarnish your name and image and these abusers can do so much hidden damage.Alice touches on IQ test being performed and yes another trigger because I recall the judge saying," You're just a stay home mom" . I then reminded him yes I gave up my career with my Masters ( the same as my spouse MPA) to raise our 3 kids. Yet somehow my intelligence was at question from a school I graduated over 20 years earlier.Ironically reading Alice and her Sweet 3 Victim Statements left me in tears because I too have a SWEET 3. Her sweet 3 included her son Avery (16), Grayson ( 14) and Aidan (12). My sweet three include my son with mid name of Avery (16) and two daughters ( 14 and 11). The uncanny similarities is why I'm blessed to have read this book. As survivors we must speak our truths and have them heard. So much of what was in this book will be noted as similar on many levels to many people. The rough sex, the alcohol and drugs, the sexual orientation, the children's welfare, the abuser/victim's rights, the protection from abuse, the societal response, the court/legal system response, the insanity of it all, and yes the recovery.I often tell those I council that the best thing they can do for themselves is to love, honor and respect themselves. To uncover their true authentic self. To prioritize their needs and to focus on processing not repressing what they feel. To have good support. To journal, write, blog, tell their story in some way that allows others to also know they are not alone nor to blame or feel shamed.In the end walking away, going no contact, establishing healthy boundaries is the key to surviving. To know when to walk away and be safe making safety your top goal is key to living to another day.When I walked away I too left it all for him. Monetary and Possessions can be replaced a life cannot. It's not worth your life or your health and happiness. The family and children is our lifeline our legacy our reason for truly living and fighting the good fight.I truly hope everyone reads this book. In closing I leave this last quote: " And all at once, I could breathe again. Be again. Live again. Finally."I'm touched deeply by this book. Thank you Alice for speaking out .

  • Sandy
    2019-03-15 14:22

    It’s devastating to know this story is not fiction. It’s not a made-up tale of woe. It’s not even “based on a true story.” Sadly, it’s not even a unique account.This memoir tells of a wife and mother of three who is forced to battle through life as viciously as the hurricane that decimated much of the gulf coast. Her only concern is for her “sweet three”. Years pass. Her life is still a challenge. Every victory is quickly followed by a traumatizing loss. My heart ached at the hopelessness of it all. While she drowned in misery, I almost couldn’t find the strength to read the next chapter.I am glad I finished this read. I am thankful it was written. The author poured her soul into the pages of this book, and I’m reaping the benefits of her lessons. Persevere. Don’t give up. Don’t let anyone make you forget who you really are.

  • Lori
    2019-03-24 09:13

    I would give this an almost four. I was a goodreads giveaway winner of this memoir by Alice Anderson. This is a tough memoir to read. Alice Anderson has had a lot of lousy things happen to her in her life As a child her father molested her and her mother did not want to believe her or do anything about it. She was in a horrible accident as a teenager that left her in the hospital for months. The husband she married named "Liam' turned out to be an abusive monster. by then they had three children. The lived in New Orleans and were right among the Hurricane Katrina. this is where her life really took a worse turn. Liam became more abusive almost killing her and she knew she had to get away and protect her small children. Of course easier said than done. This is her story. As I mentioned she is very honest about her life and sometimes hard to read.

  • Kate Campbell
    2019-03-20 13:30

    Sometimes the truth walks up and slaps your face. It leaves a red hand print that slowly fades and burrows in with the other insults you've endured, hiding under your skin. It joins other marks that leave scars and never completely heals.“Some Bright Morning I’ll Fly Away,” a memoir by Alice Anderson has that kind of wallop. Women who’ve survived extreme domestic violence may find Anderson’s memoir triggers terrifying, heart-breaking memories that are hard to stuff back in the underbelly once they’ve escaped. Such is the power of this memoir. Be warned.A synopsis of “Some Bright Morning I’ll Fly Away” can easily be found – a victimized child-woman finds her world swept away by a hurricane and fights to survive the destruction of the storm and her family. She follows a broken path with her children to wholeness, to authenticity, to breathing room – so I’ll skip the plot details. Please find them in Goodread’s introduction to this riveting personal story.The writing is often brilliant, the honesty and self-awareness remarkable. But, at times I found the narrative’s drama overplayed, the poetic language at times too heavily embellished, and in places the Southern patois felt contrived. Perhaps, because this story is told at full gallop by an astonishingly gifted writer, the editors had trouble reining in the manuscript and keeping up. Occasional typos and convolutions mar, but don't diminish this otherwise powerful piece of writing.That said, there are scenes and passages so deftly crafted they cut to the bone. For example this scene of seduction into co-dependence: “I wanted to touch him (her future husband). I knew the wounds were falling out of him right there in front of me, but I didn’t know yet that I was willing to pick them up and put them in my mouth, that I was willing to devour them one by one until he was free and I was holding down all the pain for both of us.”That’s a searingly accurate description of how I, and many other victims of domestic violence got sucked into an abusive marriage that nearly cost our lives. The idea that we could fix the person and we'd all be happy. I recognize the truth about how it happens and the mistaken thinking when I see it.Later in the story, when Anderson contemplates leaving, she describes her captivity like this: “I grew more tense, more scared, a wounded bird with broken wings, backing up into the corner of an abandoned garage, shafts of light pouring in, providing not more hope but instead exposure to every raw spot shining a harsh light on my deepest fear, illuminating my shame-soaked soul.”She wonders why she hadn’t been planning her escape all along, concluding that the “wounded bird doesn’t know to build a secret nest,” adds sotto voce: “A wounded deer leaps highest? Fuck you, Emily Dickinson.” Startled by this juxtaposition, I laughed out loud. There are many moments of humor in this story and many characters to love and cheer -- Mac and Daddy, Collette V. Collett, Addison the attorney and, of course, the children.“Some Bright Morning I’ll Fly Away,” is first and foremost the honest truth littered like storm debris throughout this book. It’s brave, beautiful and heart wrenching. It’s also a testament to Anderson’s survival skills. Beyond offering a compelling tale of real life, I sincerely hope this memoir will help encourage women living with domestic violence to safely find a way out for themselves and their children.As the Ocean Springs Mississippi police officer told Anderson at a critical moment, “Honey, get on a plane. Tonight.” I highly recommend this book and hope it finds its way to those who need to get out. "Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly Away" is a beacon of hope for those in danger.

  • Erin
    2019-03-25 14:14

    WOW! This memoir was incredibly difficult to read, and yet so compelling. Alice Anderson is the epitome of grit, strength, resilience, and 100% Mama Bear instincts. She has lived through more horrors than is fathomable. To say that living through Hurricane Katrina on the Mississippi Gulf Coast was the least of her worries should underscore how much this woman has endured. I kept thinking: now is when her nightmare of a husband disappears for good, now is when the courts will take away his rights, now is when she and her children can move on with their lives, now is when she will get a happy ending. And yet, the worst just kept getting thrown back at her. THE WORST! The family courts may have been the most frustrating of all!!! And, EVERY single time she got knocked down, Alice stood back up. She fought for her babies. She fought for their freedom. She fought for her health. She called on her village and she fought. The story skipped around at odd times, and sometimes her level of detail was almost too much to handle. But, I have the highest respect for Alice for laying herself so completely raw and vulnerable. I imagine there are other battered women who will read Alice's story and realize that they too deserve more, are worthy of love, and are not alone. They deserve to fly away too! Thank you to St. Martin's Press for the advance reader's copy of this book and the opportunity to discover Alice. I won't easily forget her.

  • Michelle Kidwell
    2019-03-10 10:25

    Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly AwayA Memoirby Alice AndersonSt. Martin's PressBiographies & MemoirsPub Date 29 Aug 2017 I am reviewing a copy of Some Bright Morning I'll Fly Away through St. Martin's Press and Netgalley:Alice Anderson returns home Post Katrina to find out the damage that was done to her beloved Mississippi Coastline and the once immaculate home she had shared with her husband Dr. Liam Rivers and their three children. Liam is the highly respected chief of medicine, whereas Alice left behind a writing career in New York as well as a modeling career in Paris. But Liam's mental health is spiraling, even attacking her at knifepoint, she is saved by her three year old Son. The author has no choice but to flee but not without a battle.Liam makes it his mission to do everything in his power to make Alice look like she was at fault, hiring pi's to stalk her.In this book, the author not only deals with the effects of Katrina, but a battle against high-powered southern attorneys who refuse to believe the facts about Liam and the abuse Alice and her children had to endure.I give Some Bright Morning I'll Fly Away five out of five stars.Happy Reading!

  • Bookish
    2019-03-23 10:29

    This weekend I’m going to spend some quality time with Alice Anderson‘s forthcoming memoir, Some Bright Morning, I’ll Fly Away. Anderson is also a poet, which is clearly evident within the first few sentences. She has a gift for language. The book opens in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina and promises to tear the reader’s heart out not only with the large-scale destruction post-Katrina but also with the devastation within the writer’s own life as her marriage comes to a violent end. I’ve been looking forward to this book for a long time and I can say wholeheartedly that it has been worth the wait. —Myf (https://www.bookish.com/articles/staf...)

  • Nina
    2019-03-03 13:28

    I assumed, from a glance at the jacket copy, that this memoir was about the trauma of recovering from Hurricane Katrina. The emotional and physical aftermath of that natural disaster are like a tropical storm compared to the Category 5 fury of what the author experienced in her divorce and custody battles.A truly stunning memoir about a very accomplished woman who overcame childhood incest, then endured a nightmarish existence with a controlling husband followed by years of torturous custody battles, this woman's story should be required reading for anyone who counsels or represents couples in crisis. It deserves the same readership as The Glass Castle. Honesty is a big theme here - of being true to your authentic self and standing up to false accusations. There are a lot of lessons here, and this poet, former model, teacher, Southern homemaker, Sacramento wild teenager, singer, and devoted mother tells her story beautifully, hauntingly - her experiences seem unendurable, but she perseveres, survives and triumphs. Truly powerful.

  • Diane
    2019-03-11 14:29

    Thoroughly enjoyed this book. Through pain, heartbreak, false starts and horrific dealings with the courts the author has shared her triumph. Highly recommend to anyone who has suffered domestic violence, physical or emotional abuse. Well written, poetic, honest, unashamed and raw.

  • Janet
    2019-02-28 15:24

    Strong voice. What a nightmare the author and her kids have been through. I hope she has found true peace. (A shout out to Poet's House in NYC!)

  • Phyllis Krall
    2019-03-21 13:09

    An emotional memoir about the author's fight to save both herself and her three children from the hands of an abusive husband. After Hurricane Katrina has caused havoc to the Mississippi coastline, Alice Anderson is assessing the damage to her home . Her husband Liam, a prominent physician, violently attacks her, while their children are watching. As Alice struggles, her three year old son saves her. Liam is not the same man Alice married and becomes mentally unstable. Even after the divorce , Alice and her children are threatened by him. Legal battles are constant and Alice moves with her children to protect them, but the Southern courts are not always on her side. Liam's visits with his children cause them deep psychological and physical harm. The author's fight for her children is relentless as she struggles to give them a normal life once again.I received this Advanced copy from Goodreads in exchange for an honest review. It really was an emotional read that is highly recommended . I admire the strength and perseverance of the author which is evident throughout the book.

  • Allison
    2019-03-12 16:13

    Required reading for people working in family and domestic violence policyWe blame victims. We tell them to get out. When they don't, we ask, "why does she stay?" Alive Anderson's memoir explains with heartbreaking honesty the other side of coin: getting out despite a justice system designed to keep victims inside the abuse cycle. I read the whole book in about a day because she is a damn fine storyteller and kept me on the edge of my seat through every infuriating setback and hopeful triumph.

  • Lesley
    2019-03-20 12:20

    I received this book for free through Goodreads' Giveaways program.My first response after finishing this was "whew." Alice Anderson tells the harrowing tale of her life-- so far. This life includes being molested as a child by her father, surviving a terrible accident in her late teens, modeling in Europe and Asia, getting an MFA in poetry, and meeting and marrying Liam, the man who tried to kill her. Most of the book deals with the relationship with Liam and its aftermath, including long, nasty court battles over the fate of their three children. To make this story even worse, much of it takes place in Mississippi post-Katrina.I feel a bit bad critiquing this book because it's amazing that Anderson was even able to write it, considering the numerous traumas she has survived. But this is a review....The writing style was a bit flowery and over the top at times, and I attribute this to Anderson being a poet (I've noticed this with other poets who write prose). One thing I had a hard time understanding was how Liam went from being an okay guy to the epitome of evil. Anderson didn't explain well how he devolved into this clearly horrible person--and that information would have helped me better understand what happened over the course of their relationship and its demise. So... those were two issues I had with the book.Also, I feel that I should have had more empathy for Anderson, yet for some reason, I didn't. Writing a memoir is a tricky thing-- it's obviously all "me me me," but there has to be something that makes the reader really invest in the writer. I did invest, but not as much as I should have given the harrowing stories that Anderson relates. What I did get from this book is that Anderson is an amazing mother, who would do anything for her children. And her picking herself up time and time again is a great example of strength and resilience.As the saying goes, truth is stranger than fiction. And Anderson's book reinforces that.

  • Susanne Cutler
    2019-02-24 08:10

    I won an advanced copy of this book from Goodreads. I really thought i would like this book more than I did. it is a memoir about the struggles and the abuse a woman suffers with her marriage and the dealings with the aftermaths of the devastation of Katrina in Mississippi. I'm not sure why but i lacked empathy for this character and her story. Perhaps it was the writing style or the failure of the author to hook me in.

  • Marsmannix
    2019-03-03 15:13

    you can certainly tell the author is an MFA graduate. (use of language) that said, i'm getting really tired of political "sucker punches" as i'm reading along, only to discover that according to the author i'm a racist, sexist, backwood hick. Funny way to reach 50% of your audience.i also had the feeling that the author was checking all required "liberal professor" boxes: bdsm? check. sex with a girl? check. etc etc.

  • Katie
    2019-03-05 09:12

    From her words in the prologue, “We make chapels of our scars. They cross our skin and soul, a topographic map of the past. Our scars are built on the delicate yet dazzling scaffolding holding our weary, ragtag hearts aloft…” Alice Anderson’s memoir, Some Bright Morning I’ll Fly Away mesmerizes. Anderson has the voice of a poet (and in fact, she is an award winning one), the heart of a goddess (at least one, The Great Mother, and maybe a few more – fiercely protective Kali, beautiful Aphrodite, lost in the underworld Persephone) and the soul of a warrior. Anderson’s memoir begins in the aftermath of The Storm, aka Hurricane Katrina, when her husband tries to kill her. She is saved by her young son, and together she and her three children survive a marathon of abuse from her ex-husband, the courts, and Child Protective Services, who do anything but protect the children. Anderson is candid about being molested as a child by her father. Her secrets, that she has to keep from the courts or risk losing her precious children to a lifetime of abuse at the hands of their father, are her love for women, a relationship with John Buffalo Mailer, and most unsettling, a seizure disorder that she developed subsequent to being almost choked to death by her husband. The oxygen deprivation and brain damage culminated in a grand mal seizure that ruptured both her eye sockets and resulted in a traumatic brain injury, axonal shearing similar to “shaken baby syndrome.” Anderson rehabilitates herself, with the help of her children and by watching Gabby Giffords rehab on YouTube, teaching herself how to walk, speak, read and write again. As a trauma therapist, I am blown away by Anderson’s grace, grit, guts and glory. I can only say the Buddhist Metta (Lovingkindness) Prayer for Anderson and her children, Avery, Grayson and Aidan: May they be happy. May they be well. May they be peaceful. May they be free.(I received this book free from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review)

  • Zoe
    2019-03-22 08:15

    I bought two copies of this book because I knew I wouldn't want to share my copy with anyone else when I was finished. Alice Anderson's memoir is beautiful, haunting, violent, and necessary. The word "survivor" is often used to describe Alice's experiences--as a child, she survived incest; as a teenager, she survived a motorcycle accident that nearly killed her; as an adult, she lived through a miscarriage, Hurricane Katrina, a horrifically abusive marriage that included her husband attempting to murder her, and a seemingly endless custody battle to get her three children away from their violent and destructive father. Finally, she suffered a traumatic brain injury and was told she would never read, write, or speak again. Her narrative is remarkable for its clear, strong voice and utter lack of self-pity. Scenes are described in unflinching detail, with the music that one would expect from a writer with an MFA in poetry. The terror and trauma of Anderson's story is lightened by tales from her modeling career in Paris, her brief love affair with Buffalo Mailer, and the love and support she received from his parents, Norman and Norris Mailer. I even found myself laughing at parts, including her description of a state-appointed psychiatrist's office full of pink flamingos. We are so lucky that Anderson is here to tell her story, that her son saved her life, that she learned to read, write, and speak again, and that she survived all of her storms. I can't wait to read her next book.

  • Melissa Cronin
    2019-03-17 10:18

    One the most riveting memoirs I've read in a long, long time. As she so eloquently writes in the opening page of "Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly Away," Alice Anderson "make[s] chapels of [her] scars." After her husband's mental illness causes him to unravel, and he attacks Alice with brutal, unthinkable force, she is saved by her three-year-old son. What follows is a heart-crumpling and breath-holding saga in which Alice and her "sweet three" are emotionally, mentally, and spiritually turned upside down. With fierce determination and boundless love for her children, she reclaims her life with her "sweet three," despite the fear and doubt storming through her, despite the legal hurdles, despite her ripped apart, toppled over life that is equal to the devastation left behind by Hurricane Katrina. "Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly Away " will crack you in half, make you cry, and possibly keep you up at night. But it will also make you say, "Aw," make you laugh, sing, dance, and certainaly cheer out loud for Alice.

  • Lynn
    2019-03-11 14:06

    When Alice Anderson fought for full custody of her three children, she was told that the fact that her husband had strangled and stabbed her was neither recent nor relevant. The damage to her body would take years to fully show itself but nonetheless the ruling stood. Not recent. Not relevant.Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly Away captivated me, moved me, and taught me. The beautiful writing drew me in. Anderson and her children are incredible survivors. This memoir's existence is a testament to her strength. We must pay attention to memoirs like this one, both for its literary and social justice merits. As Anderson wrote, "You don't think about the ways domestic violence can kill you in slow motion."

  • Vnunez-Ms_luv2read
    2019-03-11 10:36

    This book was very good. The author went through a lot and it was amazing to follow this couple from their first meeting, to dating to marriage. She also included here growing up and one cannot say that Ms. Anderson did not have a good life. But she made the best of it. And I for one admire here never give up attitude. I also admire her honestly and strength. I do not think she set out to make Liam (the man she married) bad, she just gave it to you straight no chaser and you decide how you feel about things. Yes, this was a hard book to read, but a worthwhile read. Blessings to you Ms. Anderson, I wish you well in all that you do. Thanks to NetGalley, the author and the publisher for the ARC of this book in return for my honest review.

  • Kristen Delphos
    2019-02-25 09:14

    Alice Anderson is a brilliant writer and her story is one of pain, beauty, trauma and survival. I read it over the course of a couple of days and had to go back and reread some parts - I simply could not comprehend some of the realities that this family endured. It's one of the best memoirs I've read. Alice's prose and way of telling the story is something uniquely hers. There are parts that will make you cry, but also parts that make you realize that we are all strongest when everything we hold sacred is on the line. Read this book - you'll be a better human for having learned Alice's story.

  • Joy Johnston
    2019-03-18 16:35

    Harrowing, riveting read. I think most people know what they are getting into when they read this memoir of abuse. It's certainly not the type of thing to read before going to bed. It will leave you angry, frustrated, sad and heartbroken. Alice Anderson is a gifted writer, tackling the most acutely personal subject matter with grace and even a dash of dark humor. Ultimately, this is the story of the resiliency of the human spirit, and the fierce love of a mother for her children. Anderson's book will hopefully raise awareness for the need of massive reform in the family court system.

  • Kristine
    2019-03-22 13:22

    Some Bright Morning, I'll Fly Away by Alice Anderson is a free NetGalley ebook that I read in late August.Anderson initially writes about herself and her children in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina in Mississippi, but it soon turns into a deeper, couldn't-make-this-up story of survival and overcoming persistent trauma where you side with Anderson immediately, because, for crissakes, Liam is a really awful, Hydra-habitted guy and her & the kids deserve better than that (along with a basic, casual dinner and feeling free to be unorganized once in a while).

  • Laura
    2019-03-23 11:27

    You would think that in a custody case where the father was a physically abusive alcoholic, it would be pretty clear what would be best for the children. Not in the South, apparently. This book made me so angry. To qualify: the author is a gifted writer, and her narrative is at times darkly funny and other times heart-wrenchingly gorgeous. But the situation? Oh, how I seethed. I don't want to give spoilers, so will only say that this book is an amazing read, if you like women who are strong, brave, adventurous, creative and talented. If you're looking for boring, give it a pass.

  • Avery Guess
    2019-03-13 13:21

    Phew. I just finished this gorgeous, harrowing book. It wasn't until just near the end of the book that I realized I'd pretty much been holding my breath the entire time I was reading. I'd read Alice Anderson's first book of poems, Human Nature, a few years ago, so I knew that I would be in for a treat in terms of the quality of writing, but I didn't realize how well Anderson could tell a story. Highly recommend this book for people who are on their own path to healing and for the people who care about them.

  • Jessica Nolan-bowers
    2019-03-26 11:25

    Finally able to read a book that mirrored my life, marriage, though mine was not as vicious. I left with 2 children ages 2 and 4 from a man that put a bread knife to my throat! Abuse had been verbal until that evening. Words such as you will never find someone that loves you like me were an echo from the past. I was abused at age 9 several times by a nephew in law. Never has anyone apologized for this nor cared for the life long trauma. The past is the past and I should be able to move forward! Rubbish! The past is a shadow over the future.

  • Maureen O'Leary
    2019-03-20 13:07

    Every sentence in this book is weighted with power. A tragic story of one woman's struggles with the trauma of abuse, both as a child and as a wife and mother, this memoir ultimately inspires as a testament to the human spirit. The author insists on joy, love, and the triumph of survival despite the wreckage caused by Hurricane Katrina as well as the violent and destructive actions of people and institutions that are supposed to protect her. I will be recommending this book, and author, widely.

  • Lara Lillibridge
    2019-03-26 16:25

    This book is truly heartbreakingly beautiful. The writing is simply gorgeous, the story an amazing narrative of resilience. Truly remarkable. Alice Anderson's memoir starts after her community is destroyed by hurricane Katrina, and flows back and forward in time through her years as an international model to survivor of near-fatal abuse at the hands of her husband...but it is more than that. It is a story of love, hope, and the power to survive against all odds.