Getting together with a partner may be easy, but staying together is anything but. So how do you keep a loving relationship alive, and your sexual intensity fully charged? How do you grow as a partnership, rather than grow apart? 'How Two Love' sets out with a bold ambition; to offer the tools and guidance you need to solve these problems, turning the practice of love intoGetting together with a partner may be easy, but staying together is anything but. So how do you keep a loving relationship alive, and your sexual intensity fully charged? How do you grow as a partnership, rather than grow apart? 'How Two Love' sets out with a bold ambition; to offer the tools and guidance you need to solve these problems, turning the practice of love into an art. 'How Two Love' is a celebration of our relationships, not as a formula, but as a work in progress, messy and complex and wonderful. With a transparency that refreshes, and a lightness that will leave you smiling, internationally respected author and educator Jan Resnick turns his extensive experience of psychotherapy and couples counselling into a series of charmingly recounted stories from his consulting room. He brings together surprisingly connected themes and lessons learned from a career that spans three continents and four decades. Described as “the book that, now in my sixties, I wish I had read in my twenties”, by psychiatrist and author Richard A. Chefetz, MD, 'How Two Love' doesn’t seek to diagnose or judge. It isn’t a textbook reserved for specialists and professionals. Resnick’s audience is far broader. As Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist and author Nancy McWilliams wrote, 'How Two Love' is for “anyone who has ever been in love, wanted to be in love, lost a love, or suffered for love”. The first offering in his Meaningful Living Book Series, 'How Two Love' is a powerful and transformative guide made for two, a reminder that, in love, every wound, every mistake, and every missed opportunity is an occasion to heal, to grow and to learn. In its pages, Resnick has deftly created a detailed roadmap, revealing how you can avoid the pitfalls that lead to breakdown and emotional injury; while raising the deeper issues of desire, the loving sexuality of a long-term partnership, and, most importantly, what makes love work over time....
|Title||:||How Two Love: Making your relationship work and last|
|Number of Pages||:||290 Pages|
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How Two Love: Making your relationship work and last Reviews
I wish I had read this book years ago, how things may have been different in my past relationship. I highly recommend reading this book to anyone and everyone, it's an easy book to read book packed with information and examples. I found it incredibly insightful with many opportunities to reflect upon my own past as well as present relationship and some better understanding of the complexities of love and relationships as a whole. I look forward to reading your next book Jan Resnick.
A fantastic book. Insightful, challenging, helpful and very readable. I found the discussion on the "dialectic of desire" particularly interesting. I really enjoyed that the overall feel of the book is so positive and encouraging. It inspires the belief that mutually satisfying love is an achievable reality. I am looking forward to putting the lessons learned into practice in the coming years.
Sometimes the arguments I have with my partner are only resolved when we watch Netflix together. And no I don’t mean ‘Netflix and chill’, I mean actual Netflix. Because occasionally, we see ourselves reflected in the characters on screen. We see a couple fighting over something similar to our own arguments. Using the same excuses, the same defensive words. And we realise how ridiculous we sound.We see the characters fail to understand the motives behind the other partner’s actions. Or even fail to recognise their own motives. And I realise that he’s not actually mad about the extra hour I spent shopping online before bed, but that he misses me and wants to spend more time together.We see the lack of forgiveness for honest mistakes or the smallest of betrayals, destroying the relationships of characters who have sometimes literally fought the world to be with each other.And we realise that sometimes letting go of the small things wins you the bigger reward - your relationship.Sometimes a character just does something annoying and I jump up and down and shout ‘SEE! SEE! It’s not just me that hates it when people don’t put their shoes away at the end of the day!”That’s why I think ‘How Two Love’ is amazing. The author tells stories of real people and relationships throughout the book. People who have come to him as patients from his Psychotherapy practice. And I recognise all of them. I see myself, my past self, my partner or my past lovers in every character in this book.I see my destructive patterns of behaviour. And on occasion, I give myself a little gold star for recognising what I have learnt to get right.How Two Love also gives what Netflix doesn’t. A guide for resolving the fights. For finding my true motivations, and recognising those of my partner. For practicing forgiveness and forbearance. For recovering when I don’t get everything right. And even for walking away if I ever need to.I would never in a million years be able to convince my partner to see a couples counsellor. And frankly, right now our problems aren’t worthy of that level of intervention. And whilst I have read this book cover to cover, he has only flicked through it. Yet already so much has improved in our relationship. And those looks of recognition that we used to shoot each other as we watched Netflix - we now experience in our real lives. We recognise when the other has changed their behaviour or made an extra effort because of something we have read in this book. When he has met my shortness with loving words instead of defensive ones. When he acknowledges his own shortcomings. When I make an effort to switch off the TV, phones and tablets and focus on each other.You can really tell that How Two Love was written by somebody who has spent a lifetime listening to couples argue, cry, break up and reconcile. It’s his way of yelling at the TV: “IT’S RIGHT BEHIND YOU!” Except instead of yelling, he’s calmly pointing it out. And it’s not an axe murdered behind you. But the reason why you suck at relationships.So now when my friends ask me what I recommend on Netflix I say: read this book instead.Because if you truly care about your relationships, you won’t leave it in the hands of the writers of Supernatural or The Vampire Diaries.