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Parents, teachers, therapists, and anyone who cares about a child or teen on the autism spectrum needs this essential roadmap to prepare our youth for being successful adults in today's world. Best-selling author, autism advocate, and animal science professor Dr. Temple Grandin joins psychologist and autism specialist Dr. Debra Moore in spelling out the steps you can takeParents, teachers, therapists, and anyone who cares about a child or teen on the autism spectrum needs this essential roadmap to prepare our youth for being successful adults in today's world. Best-selling author, autism advocate, and animal science professor Dr. Temple Grandin joins psychologist and autism specialist Dr. Debra Moore in spelling out the steps you can take to restore your child's hope and motivation, and what you must avoid. Eight life stories told by people on the autism spectrum, including chapters on subjects such as how to get kids off their computers, how to build on their strengths and get back to caring about their lives, and how to find a path to a successful, meaningful life make this a -MUST-READ BOOK.-...

Title : The Loving Push: How Parents and Professionals Can Help Spectrum Kids Become Successful Adults
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ISBN : 9781941765203
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Number of Pages : 280 Pages
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The Loving Push: How Parents and Professionals Can Help Spectrum Kids Become Successful Adults Reviews

  • Jamie
    2019-03-17 21:35

    Excellent resource.

  • Michael W.
    2019-03-05 14:47

    Most parents grapple with how to guide their children into a valuable and viable adulthood. Through all of my years of parenting and my time of consoling and counseling many parents in churches where I have pastored, this is a steady stream of stress. But add to this the particular struggles of autism, and the frustrations and feelings of futility can be greatly exacerbated. To restore hope and rebuild courage in parents with children on the spectrum comes a new 288 page paperback. “The Loving Push: How parents and professionals can help spectrum kids become successful adults” has co-written by Dr. Temple Grandin, author, professor and lecturer who is on the spectrum; and Dr. Debra Moore, author and psychologist who has worked with many clients dealing with HFA and Asperger’s. As the authors state, they “want to increase the odds that your child grows into an adult with a rewarding, meaningful life” (xiii).“The Loving Push” weaves together the stories of several young people who are on the autism spectrum and their parents. The accounts describe real live people overcoming and working through their specific peculiarities to become increasingly capable of independent living. Setbacks, disappointments and dark moments are described, as well as successes and advancements. Their parents and mentors also chime in voicing their strategies, relating the consequences and end results. The one shared trait in every story is that each person “was encouraged and “stretched” just outside of their comfort zone by at least one adult in their life,” which helped keep them from falling into “chronic learned helplessness” (26).Beyond the stories, the authors tackle several “how-to” approaches. For example, Chapter 2 walks the reader/mentor through ways to enable their unique child to avoid learned helplessness, to learn optimism and resist habitual negative thinking, while encouraging the mentor in the importance of their role. The significance of supportive adults is drummed through the book from cover-to-cover, especially adults who blend “being a positive role model, a source of advice or information, and someone who” expects “effort and accountability” (33). Grandin and Moore also address ways to help end a child’s bad habits, stretch them out of their comfort zones, and assist them to break out of chronic anxiety and a “don’t care” attitude. One of the critical chapters in “The Loving Push” addresses the danger of compulsive electronic gaming and how it can turn kids on the spectrum into “media recluses”. The authors make a careful distinction between recreational and compulsive gaming. They work the reader through the ways gaming affects children’s’ brains, how game developers deliberately fashion games to get compulsive or addictive responses, why ASD kids are more vulnerable to these ploys, and what to do to help the children from being consumed. One of the key components to remediating compulsive gaming is developing authentic associations. As the authors note, relationships “with real people in real time can be the best replacement for compulsive gaming” (145).“The Loving Push” is a simple read for parents and adults who are engaged with children, teens and young adults that are somewhere on the spectrum. But even parents with neurotypical children will find this volume fruitful. As a result of reading the chapter on compulsive gaming, my wife and I have initiated some important changes with our remaining children in our home. This is a book I highly recommend!My thanks to Future Horizons and Dr. Debra Moore for the free copy of “The Loving Push” used for this review sent at my request. The assessments are mine given without restrictions or requirements (as per Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255).

  • Roxanne
    2019-02-26 19:55

    Excellent, excellent, excellent! Wonderful, easy to understand, practical, totally doable ideas of, as the title suggest, how to get your Spectrum child on the path to successful adulthood. Heartening to know that we have already used many of the techniques discussed, and will use others that are new to us as presented. Our 19 yrs. old son with Aspergers will benefit greatly that his two loving parents read this book. This should be read by parents/caregivers of all teenage and older kids. Debra Moore, and of course, coauthor Temple Grandin, totally get it. Thank you, thank you to them!

  • Jean
    2019-03-14 18:39

    This book may have been written for families with children that are autistic, but it should be read by parents, grandparents, teachers and leaders who work with children and teens, if for no other reason than to read the chapter on video gaming and electronics. Authors Temple Grandin, perhaps the most famous autistic person around, and Debra Moore, a psychologist, share facts and information regarding the addiction that has trapped many children and teens today. I HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone preparing a child for the responsibilities of growing up!

  • Jamie
    2019-02-27 15:41

    A very helpful and accessible guide to getting ASD kids and teens on track for a self-sufficient and independent life. I found it most helpful in understanding ways in which an ASD brain is different from an neurotypical one and how to use that awareness to love these people more effectively! A lot of this is geared toward older kids and teens, which is just what I was looking for.

  • Lee Wilkinson
    2019-02-23 21:48

    Young adults on the spectrum face significant challenges as they transition to adulthood, with many socially isolated, unemployed, and lacking services. Unfortunately, research suggests that the vast majority of these young adults will be residing in the parental or guardian home during the period of emerging adulthood. It is clear that more needs to be done to help them thrive to the best of their abilities and attain a high quality of life. The “Loving Push” by Drs. Grandin and Moore addresses these issues with a direct, yet empathetic and positive discussion of ways in which parents and professionals can enhance the potential of “spectrum kids” of any age and help them achieve productive and meaningful adult lives.The authors deliver a critical message that, more than other children and youth, those on the autism spectrum must overcome “learned helplessness” and move beyond their “comfort zone” in order to reach their full, unique potential. Pushing is necessary,” the authors write, “because those on the spectrum are unlikely to automatically pick up the mundane but necessary tasks of daily life without us intentionally nudging them and providing them with information, encouragement, and persistence.” The central theme of “The Loving Push” is that the focus of intervention/treatment must shift to promoting adaptive behaviors and basic life skills that can facilitate and enhance ultimate functional independence and quality of life in adulthood. This includes helping spectrum kids learn the skills needed to meet new developmental challenges such as independent living, vocational engagement, post-secondary education, and self-supporting employment. Drs. Grandin and Moore provide a much needed “push” in this direction. As the authors’ note, “With more and more young adults on the spectrum entering adulthood everyday, we don’t have time to lose.” “The Loving Push” is an excellent resource and highly recommended not only for parents of children and youth on the spectrum, but for all parents looking to provide their children with the knowledge and skills needed to become self-reliant and successful adults. The book is also recommended for professionals in private practice, schools, colleges and universities, and community settings who work with teens and young adults on the spectrum to help them achieve a successful transition to this stage of life.- Lee A. Wilkinson, PhD, Author of "Overcoming Anxiety and Depression on the Autism Spectrum: A Self-Help Guide Using CBT" and "A Best Practice Guide to Assessment and Intervention for Autism Spectrum Disorder in Schools."

  • Kris
    2019-03-09 19:31

    As a mom of a 15 year old ASD teen, I found this very helpful. I second guess myself constantly and it was nice to know I am on the right track already. This book is full of practical information and hopeful true stories.

  • Jennifer Hughes
    2019-03-06 22:46

    Have you ever found a book that was exactly what you needed? The Loving Push was that book for me!I wish I could give this book to everyone who has a child on the autism spectrum (or any other non-NT flavors). If you worry about what's going to happen when these kids grow up; how they will ever be able to get a job and support themselves, become independent and move out; how you can get them off the computer and out of their bedrooms; how you can empower them to interact with people in socially appropriate and meaningful ways, PLEASE get a copy of this book. My only regret is that I did not have it several years ago when my kid on on the spectrum was a teen.

  • Gavin Bollard
    2019-03-20 20:40

    The loving push is hands down, the best autism book aimed at late teens (through to mid-twenties and sometimes beyond). If you have one of these kids already, this is the book to get.... particularly if they spend "too much time" on the computer and/or in their bedroom.  If you don't have a teen yet but have a younger child, this book is still a great one to get.  It will become increasingly valuable as your kids get older and the earlier the techniques in the book are applied, the better.I really can't praise this book enough.Full Review: http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.c...

  • Carol Peters
    2019-03-08 18:54

    It's rather a tedious read but filled with very useful stuff.

  • Danielle Christopher
    2019-03-20 20:26

    I loved the writing style. It made it an smooth read. While it mainly focussed on Asperger teens, I was able to take some tips for my kiddo who is not at that part of the spectrum.

  • Dawn Livingston
    2019-03-11 14:46

    This is a must have book if you are a parent, caregiver or professional dealing with an autism spectrum individual."We believe that the lessons and the suggestions in this book apply to all ages. We encourage you to use them with "kids" of any chronological age. Our goal is that parents, teachers, professionals, and anyone else who cares about an individual on the spectrum begins to lovingly guide, push, and mentor them as early as possible, and for as long as feasible."I believe it's also a must have book for the adult on the spectrum. I am a 49 year old autistic woman. I found this book to be profound in helping me understand myself, my weaknesses, my thinking, and what may help me overcome difficulties in life. Again and again I read things that reminded me of myself, my thinking, reactions, feelings, incidences from my childhood, my life. The book contains a lot of real life examples including those from the life of Temple Grandin and I found that helpful.Quotes used in the book that so well define the book are:"Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're probably right." Henry Ford"Limits, like fear, are often an illusion." Michael Jordan"Hope is a function of struggle." Brene Brown, Ph.D."You can avoid reality, but you cannot avoid the consequences of avoiding reality." Any Rand"Don't let your mind bully your body into believing it must carry the burden of its's worries." Astrid Alauda"Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn." Benjamin FranklinWe may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future." Franklin D. RooseveltI will read this book again in another week or so to reinforce what I've read and it's a book I should read every year at least as a reminder. Highly recommended.

  • Ashley
    2019-03-02 22:48

    Very helpful. Although it was directed for parents of teens on the autism spectrum, I saw a lot that was relevant for me as a parent of a younger child on the spectrum and of neurotypical (NT) kids. The basic premise of the book was that spectrum kids are often more capable of living with greater autonomy than many of their parents or others give them credit for. This autonomy is difficult for most of them to achieve because they are so resistant to change and to learning new skills outside their areas of interest. Parents, teachers, and others need to provide them with a "loving push" in order for them to learn to live as independently as they can and for them to have satisfying adult lives. On page 67, Temple Grandin notes that in her work with slaughterhouses, there are a handful of points that if done well, make the whole operation run smoothly. Conversely, if these points are lacking or poorly done, no other changes will make things work. She and co-author Debra Moore discuss six critical control points kids need to grow up to be successful, independent adults: 1) Take turns; 2) Cope with not always getting their way; 3) Be willing to do some things they really don't want to do; 4) Control impulsive behavior; 5) Maintain basic hygiene; and 6) Follow through on tasks (chores, volunteering, work, school assignments). These things have to be explicitly taught to most kids on the spectrum because they don't pick up on the social cues NT kids do. They also struggle to learn things outside their specific interests.This has been absolutely true for me as we've raised our son. I remember teaching him how to put on his pants and shirt, how to use a spoon and fork, and how to use the potty; he had no interest in learning these things himself, and other life skills have been slow in coming because I had to figure out that they all had to be explicitly taught, that he wouldn't just pick them up as my younger kids have done. It's a hard thing to have a kid who isn't interested in trying those new skills because the parent is met with so much resistance every time we try to teach something new. And that resistance goes on much longer than it does with NT kids, so we think, "You know what? Is this fight really worth it? If I just do this chore myself, it will save us all a lot of anxiety in the long run." But in the even longer run, I'm doing my kid a disservice because he doesn't know how to take care of a home or do things for himself. I've then made him dependent on me in a way that simply can't continue forever.There was a lot about video gaming and how spectrum kids' brains are wired for that kind of stimulation and even addiction. It made me think about the kinds of games my kid plays, how long, and how to help him develop interests outside the computer so his social skills will continue to develop.My big takeaway was that I need to start teaching certain skills one at a time. If I try to teach much more than that, everyone is going to be miserable. I also need to make sure he has other things in his life besides computer games, which he enjoys playing with his dad and uncles. We have started swimming lessons again, and I've thought a lot about some of the things we can do this summer to get out and about and with other people. I'm grateful to have read this book to help me figure out what super long-term goals I should be working toward. We've even shared the list on page 67 with his therapy team so everyone is on the same page. It's good to have a direction and to hear from someone like Temple Grandin who has lived with autism her entire life and from Dr. Moore, who has worked with people on the spectrum her whole career. There is hope and autonomy ahead if we can work together to help him make the most of his brain, life, skills, and capabilities.

  • Emily
    2019-02-22 15:45

    This book was disappointing because it is geared toward parents of higher-functioning children on the Autistic Spectrum. The real-life examples they give are of people who can get fancy tech jobs and drive cars, which lower-functioning Autistic kids cannot do. Those of us who love and know lower-functioning Autistic kids should look elsewhere for books that can help us navigate the complex older years where our children are learning to deal with the adult world, becoming more independent.

  • Alacrity17
    2019-03-15 14:48

    Probably one of the clearest, most direct books on how to work with your child of autism I have ever read. It is a must read for nay parent with an autistic child before they have hit the teen years and what to do if you are reading after they have. I was very impressed with its message and unflinching design to say - No, you have to do this. Highly recommend this book. It can be a game changer for you.

  • Elizabeth
    2019-03-11 20:32

    I enjoyed the information. The one thing that frustrated me was them constantly discussing the push for early diagnosis. This isn't really something that can always be done due to the care providers you have in your area and the fact that it is a female.

  • Katherine Trinity
    2019-03-19 18:48

    So much useful information and real life stories. Thank you.

  • Doan
    2019-03-21 15:35

    This book has been the most helpful and the best book on this topic.

  • Donna Meyers
    2019-02-22 21:44

    Very helpful. I needed this information years ago.

  • Joanne Sher
    2019-03-09 16:44

    really great information for parents of autistics. recommend highly.

  • Colleen
    2019-03-13 15:54

  • Ellen
    2019-03-08 22:44

    Highly recommended for parents, teachers and paraprofessionals striving to nurture the right balance of independence and exposure to new experiences for high-functioning adolescent students with Autism who resist and fear change and who rely to heavily on videogames and isolation to manage their mental states. Temple Grandin and her co-author talk frankly about gaming addiction and I think this applies to many boys not just those with Autism. These strategies and first-hand stories are both compassionate, inspiring and practical.

  • Linda
    2019-03-09 21:33

    This was very helpful to me. As a parent of a teenage daughter with Autism, finding out she had Autism at a late age has been difficult. Not always knowing what direction to take in helping her be more independent and wondering if she would ever be able to be has been hard. I appreciate the ideas presented here and hope to see success as I implement some of them, giving a "gentle push."

  • Erin Isgett
    2019-03-13 18:39

    Such a fantastic, practical, applicable book! The information is definitely focused more on teenagers, but has given me so many things to think about, anticipate, and prepare for as a mother with two autistic children. I love Temple Grandin, and her co-author Debra Moore had so much great experience and knowledge to share as well. I highly recommend this book!

  • Anne Marie
    2019-03-06 19:31

    This was a really great book not only for parents of children on the spectrum but for parents more generally. In an age of helicopter parents, the book makes the case that we should all allow ourselves to step back and let our children fly. Yes we should support them but also give them space and a loving push to be as independent as possible.

  • Elizabeth Connery
    2019-03-17 18:27

    I appreciate how specific and clear these steps are, and their descriptions of ASD kids is spot-on for my son. I am taking away a lot from this book and look forward to having some guidelines and goals as I help my son transition to adulthood.

  • Melissa B.
    2019-03-06 19:42

    This should be a must-read for parents of children with high functioning autism! So much practical advice to help stretch your child so they can reach their goals and become productive, happy members of society.

  • Melissa
    2019-03-19 20:30

    Definitely a book I will refer to as my son ages.

  • Julie
    2019-03-18 20:48

    Helpful for all children/caregivers.