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The death of someone we love cracks us open inviting us to become the person we were born to be. This is the book Tom Zuba wishes he had read after his daughter Erin died. And after his wife Trici died. It’s the book he wishes he’d been handed following his son Rory’s death. But Tom had to live it. First. Before he could write it. For you. In the beginning, Tom did grief tThe death of someone we love cracks us open inviting us to become the person we were born to be. This is the book Tom Zuba wishes he had read after his daughter Erin died. And after his wife Trici died. It’s the book he wishes he’d been handed following his son Rory’s death. But Tom had to live it. First. Before he could write it. For you. In the beginning, Tom did grief the old way. Repressing, denying, pretending, numbing and stuffing every feeling and every emotion that arose. He created pain on top of pain until he began searching for a new way. A new way to do grief. Once he gave himself permission to mourn, healing began. Along the way, Tom discovered that: * Grief is not the enemy. Grief can be one of our greatest teachers. * It’s the stories we tell that determine whether or not we will heal. * We will always have a relationship with the people we love that have died. * We were not born to suffer. We were born to be radiant. There is a new way to do grief. Let Tom Zuba teach you how....

Title : Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Do Grief
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ISBN : 23691121
Format Type : Kindle Edition
Number of Pages : 128 Pages
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Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Do Grief Reviews

  • Jeri Paull
    2018-12-02 08:01

    I am almost 19 months out from losing my son. I read this book last month, and immediately gave it to a friend in grief and ordered 5 copies for my support group. Tom Zuba gets it, and he communicates in a way that touched my soul and my ruptured heart. I wish I had picked it up sooner - I think it would have been the perfect read in those agonizing 3rd and 4th months where the numbness is wearing off and the horrific reality is setting in. Thank you, Tom, and bless you for sharing so much of yourself so that others may heal.

  • Catherine
    2018-11-30 09:03

    This was helpful, uplifting, and hopeful. I know I'll end up reading it again and again whenever I'm having a particularly hard time with my grief.

  • Tiffany
    2018-12-06 06:08

    This book gave me more comfort and hope than any so far. The poetry format is the perfect bite sized chunks of information for the foggy grief-brain. So glad I stumbled across this book today.

  • Andrea
    2018-12-06 08:02

    the first grief book I have read that truly helped me

  • Terry
    2018-11-14 09:28

    What courage Tom has to write this book and reach out to others. It is a quick read but an important read. You have the choice how you want to do grief and how you want to live after the death of someone you love ♡♡♡

  • Charles Atchison
    2018-12-05 11:26

    Excellent bookTom's book is the first book to accurately describe my grief on losing my wife. Very helpful and therapeutic. Well written, could not put it down. Highly recommend it!!! Would give it six stars if I could.

  • Nancy Saltzman
    2018-11-27 08:25

    This is absolutely one of the most insightful and helpful books about grief and loss that I have read. Buy it for yourself and anyone you know who has experienced loss.

  • Cindy
    2018-11-19 10:05

    Beautifully writtenThank you, Tom Zuba. I have felt lighter and more connected as I read your words. Perfectly phrased, so that we,who are already feeling lost, don't lose focus on these important words and concepts.

  • Emilea Smith
    2018-12-13 06:17

    Great readingThis book reflected all the emotions and fears i felt after my husband passed. I found in these pages permission to grieve my way and permission to be whole and happy in time. I whole heartedly recommend it to everyone, especially those grieving

  • Jen
    2018-12-14 05:21

    There were parts of this book and parts that didn't resonate with my own walk with grief. I think you have to read it to know if it's for you.

  • Sharon
    2018-11-15 05:10


  • Barbara Klaviter
    2018-12-09 08:08

    So understandingTom has been there. In the black deep hole of despair. He understands. And he has chosen life. Thank you so much for writing this.

  • Sherry Sharpnack
    2018-12-08 05:13

    This book is a very quick read, written like poetry. It is also profoundly moving, & just a bit healing. If the author can lose two children and his wife within 10 years & move on, so can I.

  • Hilary
    2018-11-15 08:23

    Received a friends copy after loosing my grandmother, found comfort in many of the pages. While it is not going to mend a broken heart it may ease some pain. Would recommend.

  • Heather
    2018-11-16 08:59

    A beautiful, comforting amazing book on grief.

  • Twyla Sparks
    2018-11-19 09:12

    Excellent This was a whole different look about grief. I feel better after reading this twice now and I plan on reading it over again.

  • Ken Reed
    2018-12-05 09:20

    Take this review with a grain of salt. The writing is clear and almost like the flow of thought you go through when grieving. He explains about his struggle with the 3 losses in his life and through that gives advice on handling grief. It is a good read. Yes, I'd recommend this to someone who is grieving and not handling it well. So why the low score?The author didn't take into count people with emotional or mental disorders. And why should he? He was writing about his battle and enlightenment, not mine. I have severe OCD and generalized high anxiety disorder. So when certain subjects were brought up, my mind went in a completely opposite direction.Unfortunately the book only solidified my failure to save my loved ones and instilled in me the belief that I am a horrible person because my loved ones died because I "didn't care enough". Let's just say it was a bad day. Bless my wife and therapist who brought clarity back. The loved one immediately in question was my best friend whom died of brain cancer. I was his primary caretaker basically until he passed. Which was about 2 years. So to say I didn't care enough is a little ludicrous. So read it. But keep in mind, his ideas and advice won't work for everyone.

  • Ineke van Mackelenbergh
    2018-12-05 10:20

    Although my grief belongs to some years back, I was totally overwhelmed by the author's way in which to work through it, recognizing so many of the stages one does definitely go through in grief: the questions, the bewilderment, personal recriminations in 'what if', the sense of loss. He has fully addressed these..At first the way in which the book was written took me by surprise, thinking it was a kind of poetry in motion and yet as I kept reading I felt it was the only way in which he could have expressed it all, and quite beautiful at that. Perhaps it can be seen as poetry in motion and yet not in the cadence of poetry as we understand it.I had one hiccup - but do not express that in my rating - that, although he dedicates the book to his living son, the author made me wonder how this son Sean 'his greatest teacher' held up (with) his dad through the grieving process...

  • Jacqueline
    2018-11-25 10:06

    This book, written in prose poetry is a quick read. I read it on Friday morning and then again on Saturday morning. When I first saw the book, I didn't want anything to do with it. Tom Zuba has suffered the sudden loss of two children and a wife over a 15 year period. I object to a world where one family is subjected to so much grief. But this book surprised me. It is a comfort. Many simple truths lie within these pages. Many simple truths that can help a grieving person feel not only permission to mourn, but permission to live.

  • Tracey
    2018-12-05 07:17

    Unique style - unique thoughts Permission to Mourn is written a free prose style which makes for fast and easy reading. Many helpful nuggets nestled in this self help book for the bereaved. I would recommend this book for those a few weeks down their path. Hugs to all who need such a book. Peace to you.

  • Gina Orzak
    2018-11-20 08:01

    Very helpful to do list - liked the 5 to do's to work towards healing. Grief books help with all kinds of loss not just the death of a loved one. Examples of loss without death is - divorce, long distance move which cause separation from daily life, a friendship turning in anther direction, etc. I found the book a good read and would have been helpful the last time I was mourning a loss.

  • Sue
    2018-12-03 11:18

    A wonderful book, simple and profound. Very needed in a time of grief. I would recommend it to anyone going through grief, but in particular those who experience a death that is unexpected like a child's.

  • Pam Barnes
    2018-12-02 03:16

    The author shares his innermost thoughts and ideas. After suffering several terrible losses, he finds a way to come out on the other side. I am grateful to him for sharing "a new way to do grief." So often, mourners become "lost" in the process. This gives me hope. I have read it twice now.

  • Roma Jones
    2018-11-15 04:14

    I got this book from the library this morning. I saw it next to the the other book I was looking for and was intrigued so I borrowed it too.And then I went home and read it in 45minutes. I loved every piece of it. And I needed it. All of it. Awesome awesome book. I recommend it highly.

  • Gloria Meske
    2018-12-14 07:00

    I've read may grief books, some speak to me deeper & this one will have a permanent place on my nightstand. It gives me hope, which is what I need. But to be able to believe in the hope, that I can be happy again. Easy to read & reaches the heart. If you have lost someone give this book a try.

  • Carol Rodi
    2018-12-03 06:03

    I highly recommend this book

  • Andy
    2018-11-14 10:59

    This guy 100% gets it. What a great book.

  • Cindy
    2018-11-23 04:12

    Short, concise, read in less than two hours. Validated that I'm on the right track.

  • Julia
    2018-11-16 07:08

    This is a must read for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, especially if you have lost a child, which is impossible to "get over".

  • Toni McCloe
    2018-12-04 04:08

    A deeply touching book.