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Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) has quickly become a controversial topic in recent years. Whereas other books on the subject describe the condition as inherited, Dr. Gabor Maté believes that our social and emotional environments play a key role in both the cause of and cure for this condition. In Scattered, he describes the painful realities of ADD and its effect on childAttention Deficit Disorder (ADD) has quickly become a controversial topic in recent years. Whereas other books on the subject describe the condition as inherited, Dr. Gabor Maté believes that our social and emotional environments play a key role in both the cause of and cure for this condition. In Scattered, he describes the painful realities of ADD and its effect on children as well as on career and social paths in adults. While acknowledging that genetics may indeed play a part in predisposing a person toward ADD, Dr. Maté moves beyond that to focus on the things we can control: changes in environment, family dynamics, and parenting choices. He draws heavily on his own experience with the disorder, as both an ADD sufferer and the parent of three diagnosed children. Providing a thorough overview of ADD and its treatments, Scattered is essential and life-changing reading for the millions of ADD sufferers in North America today....

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  • whalesister
    2019-05-13 04:05

    Since I have a house full of ADD/OCD people I've read far too many websites and books on ADD, so when my sister gave me yet another one, I didn't rush to read it. I should have. Pretty soon I was taking it with me everywhere I went, reading in the bathtub...usually only fiction makes the cut for a bathtub-read. This is going to sound like an infomercial, but, really, this book has changed my life. It isn't just about ADD; it's about how to parent both your children and yourself in a way that promotes healthy mental well-being. Every parent should read it. Definitely everyone who thinks they or their children might possibly have ADD should read it. I look at parenting in a radically different way. I'm a better mom in every way. I'm finally working through my own psychological "unfinished business." If only I'd found this when my oldest child was a baby. Of course it hadn't been written then. But I wish it had. And that I had read it. If you are a parent or just a messed-up person like me, you should read it, too. Go get it. Now.

  • Angela Henderson
    2019-05-05 01:56

    I was surprised how much I *didn't*like this book, given all the glowing reviews.Another Amazon reviewer nailed why:"While Dr. Mate' does give some credence to the genetics of ADD, he pretty much leaves the implications of this behind as he goes into a long description of failed or inadequate parental attachments being the primary reason for ADD symptomatology (as if the parents of ADD kids didn't feel guilty enough about passing on a genetic inheritance they most likely didn't know they had). Even if this was not the doctor's intent, it is so pervasive in this book that one cannot help but feel that if a child or an adult exhibits ADD symptoms, that there is "someone" to blame, not just for the genetic inheritance but for bad parenting."I have twins. One has ADD symptoms. They were raised under identical conditions, yet I am supposed to believe I was a shitty parent to one and not the other. Interesting.Also this:"Another thing that bothered me about the book is his appeal to authority without citing the studies he's using to support his theories. Does Dr. Mate' believe his readers to be incapable of checking citations to the studies he's referring to, assuming they have indeed been published in peer-reviewed publications?"I want to see real evidence behind assertions, and I didn't see much.

  • Kristen
    2019-04-25 04:55

    This book is amazing and really changed my thinking about ADD/ADHD. Maté describes in detail how ADHD is not genetic, but how a genetically sensitive brain protects itself with ADD behaviors. I've become a bit of an evangelist about this book, since I see things so differently now. Things to learn in this book: Unconditional Positive Regard, Counterwill, Wooing the Child, Unfinished Business.If you want to get some insight onto a child with ADHD or oppositional behavior, check out this book. Turns out many of the things we do to control our children actually perpetuate the problems. Maté puts forth the notion that ADD can actually be healed with the brainpower of a parent who takes stock of their own "Unfinished Business" and pays close attention to the growth and healthy development of their child's brain processes. Fascinating, compelling, inspiring.As someone with attention issues and ADD in the family, I felt so understood by this author. As the mother of someone with attention issues, I found inspiration, and our family dialogue has changed to a mutual seeking of solutions rather than 'who's in control.'

  • Willa
    2019-04-27 01:03

    This book had an unusual perspective towards ADD. While acknowledging that it might have a biochemical or physiological element, the author (a psychoanalyst) focused on the condition not as a disease, but as a developmental problem related to attachment difficulties in the early years.He avoids putting any blame on the parents. To illustrate his perspective, he talks about his own early childhood. He was born in eastern Europe in 1944, just before the Germans occupied. His father was gone (something to do with the war) and he and his mother spent several weeks in a refugee camp. He shows a picture of himself as a young baby ... his face and posture are already tense and hypervigilant. Yet his mother, who is holding him, is turning down towards him the face of a Madonna -- loving, kind, peaceful. The point is that even though his mother loved him and took the best care of him that a mother could, the times were incredibly stressful and that infants are deeply influenced by their mother's state of mind, even if the mother is loving and caring. He grew up with undiagnosed ADD. So his point isn't that medication and behavioral treatments are useless, as that they are better done with a focus on relationship and particularly on attachment difficulties.So in this light, some of the ways parents treat their ADD children only escalate the problem. For example, severity and criticism might set up resistance and "counterwill" which drive the child to do the opposite of what the parent wants. And the more a family is sucked into the emotional state of the ADD child, the less the child learns to regulate this feelings -- he feels them magnified rather than soothed by the reaction of the other family members.I found the book very interesting and several things about it made me understand myself better. I have a lot of ADD traits but didn't really see myself as having a physiological difficulty so much as a transmission difficulty. The realization that anxiety and shame acquired early in life can "hijack" brain function made me understand better how I can think one way and act a completely different way, so that sometimes I feel like I am two people. Mate's emphasis is that no one solution helps all people with ADD, but that while treating the symptoms it is good to look for the root causes. Because of his perspective as an attachment theorist, he looks for causes in attachment problems. Since the attachment theory seems very plausible to me, I find his writings very convincing. I would probably recommend this book along with a couple of more practical, cognitive/behavioral type ones because I think psychoanalysis is more effective alongside with solution-oriented therapy. But I think this book offers some very valuable insights into how ADD affects and is affected by relationship.

  • Ariel
    2019-05-22 00:46

    A friend of mine who is a parent asked me about this book, and this is what I told her. About me: I am not a parent, and I have ADD._________Good on you for wanting to learn about what might be going on with [your daughter]! From the little bit of time I've spent with her, it seems like a definite possibility, but everyone who has ADD has different experiences and "symptoms." The best expression of that for me was in a book by Sari Solden called Women with Attention Deficit Disorder, but clearly that's focused on adult women (though she does talk quite a bit about girls too).Scattered is GREAT. It's one of the best books on ADD I've read yet, and I'm so glad I'm reading it. What I'm appreciating is that he doesn't pander, and he doesn't wrap it up as simply a brain function issue, which is what I've felt to be true. I'm personally convinced that my experience isn't just biology. I don't think I'd be the way I am if I didn't live in a culture that is saturated with information, that removes us far from our natural rhythms, that requires me to be vigilant all the time, that values achievement to a degree that's ridiculous, that insists on fast and "good enough" over the spacious reflection and full consideration that engenders much better than good enough... I could go on. Those things are challenges for everyone, but they are excruciating for someone who has the misfortune of a certain set of developmental sensitivities and brain function challenges. Maté has evidence that supports this instinct of mine, so it's been fascinating to see the facts behind it.While he acknowledges the effect of the cultural situation, Maté focuses primarily on the imprint of the family - the closest unit of culture. My only caution to you in reading it is that because his research focus is on the role of the parent/child interaction in the development of ADD, it gets to feel pretty blameful of parents. He is very good about being fair and equivocating, but at 75% through the book, I'm like "I get it, my mom was stressed and it affected me." At this point I need some relief from that story. Maté is careful to point out that the factors parents might bring to "causing" the child's ADD are in many cases stressors that they themselves are not aware of (they may even be legacy and thus implicit to them), and that clearly most parents do not want to harm their children... but if I were a parent reading it, I'd be hard-pressed to fight off overwhelming feelings of guilt.He also gives readers a lot of hope that people with ADD can find peace and live wonderful lives. I've appreciated a slew of evidence-based recommendations for managing and healing my own ADD, and I had a breakthrough as a result of reading them; that's worth the price of admission alone. I haven't yet read the recommendations about children, but my guess is that there's equally helpful information about supporting a child with ADD.I honestly can't say whether, as a parent, I'd read this book. I probably would, and then spend a week crying, but ultimately be really glad to have the knowledge, and then call it up every time I fail my child as proof of my inadequacy, and then be grateful for the knowledge it's given me to support my child well... As an adult with ADD, however, reading this book has been 100% valuable - and it's very engaging. I'm devouring it.

  • Stephen
    2019-05-09 23:40

    Dr. Gabor Mate's approach to Attention Deficit Disorder is radically different from many, as he builds a salient case for our socio-emotional environment plays a key role in both the cause and treatment of this condition, with genetic factors important but insufficient. He also refuses to think of ADD as a "disease" and while pharmacological treatments can produce dramatic improvements in some, it is more important to deal with what has "trained" or supported a person's inability to stay attentive to important tasks, than to generate endorphins with methylphenidate (Ritalin, Concerta, et al). Mr Mate writes from personal experience, and candidly shares his on struggles and the impact on his family. I intend to read more of his work.

  • Kelly
    2019-05-17 05:55

    This is one of the most useful books I have ever read. I feel like my entire life makes sense now: why I carry certain behaviors, where they originated, and (thankfully!) how to work on them and live with them. I can't give this book enough stars. Everyone should read this book. His other book, "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" has even more fantastic advice for those of us with addictive behaviors, though it's a thick chunk of a book which might lose some readers for its size alone. I recommend them both.

  • nikki
    2019-04-30 00:59

    The short version: An excellent resource for those wanting to learn more about the disorder. And an interesting hypothesis about the origin of ADHD that may or may not resonate with each reader.My only real point of contention is the author's assertion that tuning out and dissociation are the same thing. Sure, they can coexist at different levels at the same time, but in my experience they definitely are not the same thing. The long, extremely personal version: This book has quite literally changed my life.At the end of June, my therapist asked if I had ever been diagnosed with ADD as a child. I said no, and found the idea amusing. Prior to this book, my understanding of ADD/ADHD was very minimal, and I literally never even considered it in relation to myself. Reading is and always has been my favourite pasttime. I didn't have behavioural problems growing up. Sure, I have always been extremely spacey and inattentive, disastrously disorganized and distracted, chronically forgetful and tuned out (and so and and so forth...). But I didn't fit into that stereotypical idea of a hyperactive problem-child ADHD kid, and I was extremely ignorant about the disorder, so, yeah, why would I associate myself with it? Never crossed my mind. My therapist recommended I read a book on the topic,Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, before our next session for discussion, because she strongly thought I might have ADD, and this book might give me some insight.I borrowed it from the library and began, highly skeptical. Everyone has attention problems to some degree, right? Well. I very soon realized I actually had ZERO idea what ADHD was outside of the stereotypical notion of it, and did some obsessive online research alongside reading this book. Not even two chapters in, I realized, "Shit, this is me. THIS IS ME." I returned the book to the library and bought my own copy to mark up and make notes. I've since been reading anything else about the disorder I can find.At my next therapy session, my therapist asked if I had read the book and I said yes, and that it had resonated with me. She asked what resonated, and I said, "Well, if I do have ADD, it would explain my entire life. It would fill in all the blanks and areas that my history with depression and anxiety don't account for, that I always tried to make them fit into to explain something that didn't make sense." Something that didn't make sense because, without the missing piece of ADD, it quite literally couldn't make sense. Then we discussed why, etc, blah blah. At the end of the appointment I promised her I would talk to my physician about a diagnosis. To make a long story short, I have now very recently been officially diagnosed with Adult ADHD-PI. It's been a life-altering process, and a strangely liberating one. Finally, finally, I understand what the hell was wrong with me my entire life. All the frustration and confusion. It adds up. Everything that didn't make sense, makes sense. This book has given me a better, more educated understanding of the disorder, and it helped put me on the path to better understanding myself. My relief when I was diagnosed was, frankly, astronomical. Consequently,Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder has become one of the most important books in my life. Literally: life-changing.Sidenote: Why does every book on ADD/ADHD seem to have such long, winding titles? Seems ironic, ha.

  • Maya
    2019-04-26 03:06

    Reading this book was so incredible - it offered insight and changed my perspective on all the relationships in my life, though I picked it up because my boyfriend was recently diagnosed. I have a new understanding of my childhood and the amazing challenge of parenting, the children I care for and how to more compassionately observe my own patterns and care for myself. Not to mention my peek into the mind of the ADD boyfriend! I wanted to call someone or shout from the rooftop after every page because I felt so enlightened. Highly recommend!

  • Marcy
    2019-05-11 06:41

    This is a most readable "meta-work" that elegantly synthesizes many important insights into developmental disorders, parental challenges and our shared cultural attention deficit trajectory. De-pathologizes the diagnosis of ADD and puts in into the profoundly meaningful and useful context of the new understandings of the neurobiology of attachment. You can kill two birds with this one book: gain important insights into the epidemic of ADD while learning the basics about "new attachment theory" and brain development. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!!

  • Amir
    2019-05-17 03:42

    كتاب در بسياري قسمت ها قشنگ مستندي از زندگي من بود، واسه همين خوشم اومد. اطلاعات مفيد و ظاهرا علمي داره. ميگم ظاهرا چون سررشته اي در روانشناسي ندارم و حوصله ام هم نشد رفرنس هاشو چك كنم و كلا به بست سلر ها مشكوكم. يه چيز خيلي جالبي كه ياد گرفتم اين بود كه دقت چندان به هوش ربط نداره ولي ارتباطش به عواطف واحساسات نزديكه. من خودم اينرو به صورت تجربي حس ميكردم اما دونستن درباره پيشزمينه علميش برام خيلي جالب بود. مساله ديگه تمركز كتاب رو تربيت كودكانه كه خيلي شايد جالب نباشه براي همه. براي من دنياي كودكان خيلي جالبه و غير از اون به نظرم همه ادما بايد يه نيمچه مطالعه درباره كودكان داشته باشن. كتاب خوب فصل بندي شده و ميتونيد از جاهاييش عبور كنيد در حالي كه تقريبا ميدونيد چيو داريد از دست ميديد.انتقاد سازنده: الكي طولانيه و خيلي جاها حرفاشو الكي تكرار ميكنه.

  • Samuel Cooper
    2019-05-15 22:38

    I've never had a book hit so close to home as this one did; it felt almost as if Dr. Mate had looked into my innermost self and mirrored back at me many of the experiences and the feelings from my life that have gone unspoken of because I never quite knew how to explain them. I felt like he could have been talking about me in many of the scenarios he described. I found this book to be really easy to read in the sense that it wasn't overly technical. Dr. Mate's moving and heartfelt narrative on ADD does a solid job of introducing a controversial topic in a way that is equally as appealing to someone completely unfamiliar with the condition as it would be to someone who has been living with it for their entire lives whether diagnosed or not; and he does so with empathy and compassion. The examples he provides, including the example of himself, as an accomplished medical practitioner and author as well as an adult living with ADD, help to dispel many of the misconceptions concerning who can have ADD or what it may look like. I was also able to appreciate his balanced explanation that genetics and environment, are equally responsible for its existence; and found his assertion of the disproportionate role that the first several years of a child's life, its relationship with its mother/caregiver, and the mental/emotional state of the mother/caregiver has in determining who will develop ADD, regardless of genetic predisposition to be fascinating. Most importantly, Dr. Mate warns against placing too much emphasis on treating ADD with medication only and offers us his common sense recommendations for healing one's relationship with their ADD child, or ADD selves, the most important of which being to create an environment of unconditional positive regard without which it is impossible for the person living with ADD to fully heal emotionally.Without first beginning to heal their "self" first and foremost, the person living with ADD will find themselves continuing their present pattern of strained relationships lacking intimacy, tasks left undone, and unmet potential; regardless of whether they are being prescribed any sort of pharmacological treatment or not. Do yourself a favor and read this book, you won't regret it.

  • teresino
    2019-05-08 05:00

    i picked this up because of mate's talks on democracy now in which he appeared to be thoughtful and open about his experiences with addiction and ADD, which was punctuated by a refreshing turn away from pharmaceuticals with a bent toward mindfulness/neuroplasticity (concepts/tools that i gleaned from daniel j. siegel's book "mindsight"). mate's book rehashes a lot of the topics and experiences that he talked about in his democracy now interviews, though, despite it's written form, it is less coherent. with help from a friend i trudged through some of his more cluttered sentences and found myself wondering what "addictions" in my life are keeping me from being present with my mind. some of the adult accounts of ADD are helpful, though on a whole i felt like his emphasis on certain behaviors as quintessential ADD qualities made me fixate too much on whether i have or do not have ADD. mate attempts to synthesize western medicine's desire to diagnose and promptly treat with drugs with a more mindful approach. i can't say that i've gained any new skills to help me focus, however his chapters on self-parenting were timely reminders.

  • Dean Italiano
    2019-05-06 01:44

    If you get nothing else out of this book, get this as a parent: Give your child undivided, positive attention before they have to beg for it, or worse, take any kind of attention they can get.In my opinion, this should be *required* reading for all teachers, almost all parents, and not only people with ADD, but those that were adopted, too. If you have ADD, if you are a parent with ADD, or if your child has been told they are ADD, you NEED to read this... because it brings clarity and hope. You can be smart, and feel scattered.

  • Cathy
    2019-05-18 07:06

    pg. 320 says it all: "The world is much more ready to accept someone who is different and comfortable with it than someone desperately seeking to conform by denying himself. It's the self-rejection others react against, much more than differentness. So the solution for the (ADD) adult is not to 'fit in', but to accept his inability to conform." Hooray, Dr. Mate! Thanks for giving us permission to be ourselves!

  • Michael
    2019-05-04 02:07

    Mate's perspectives on mental health issues are refreshing and intelligent. He integrates developmental understanding, neuroscience and psychiatric concepts and succeeds in challenging the medical model of ADHD. It should be no suprise that the narrow perspective of the medical model misses a great deal and can undermine true recovery.

  • rae
    2019-04-29 04:41

    what i learned:-ideas about how to parent/teach children with ADD-insight into the social/environmental origins of ADD-directions for how to self-parent/heal-the connection between ADD, sensitivity, anxiety and their impact on relationshipsso good.

  • *Closed*
    2019-04-28 01:55

    Fantastic read. Eye- opening, and left me with more love for both myself and fellow people. A human psyche is a complex system.

  • Lisa Gennusa-O'Connell
    2019-05-17 03:01

    Wow, this book taught me so much about the mysterious thing known as ADD. Highlighted like mad! "Better to seek understanding than to be understood."

  • Eko Prasetyo
    2019-04-25 05:43

    Mind opening book about ADHD and Autism. It boils down to giving unlimited love and attentions to our loved ones.

  • Ann Frost
    2019-05-15 06:45

    A powerful argument about the origins of ADD. If you or your children are affected, I highly recommend this book. Thanks, Ken, for lending it to me!

  • Marco Pontual
    2019-04-30 05:06

    Mentes Dispersas: As Origens e a Cura do Transtorno de Déficit de Atenção e HiperatividadeEstava aqui percebendo como é mais difícil escrever sobre livros que eu não gostei tanto. Esse é um deles. Os fatores que mais me desapontaram no livro foram a constante repetição das mesmas ideias somada à definição pouco precisa de TDAH (tinha hora que as descrições eram tão abrangentes que parecia que ele estava falando de todo mundo) e às muitas opiniões pessoais do autor apresentadas como fatos incontestáveis.Apesar disso o livro tem algumas qualidades redentoras, tipo a descrição de pacientes que ele tratou e os diferentes resultados, o que foi didático para entender uma coisa ou outra sobre o TDAH e seu tratamento. Além disso, o autor fala abertamente dos próprios problemas com o transtorno, o que acho sempre interessante de ler.Um resumão injusto do livro seria o seguinte: o autor foca bastante no ambiente familiar e no fato de que praticamente todos os seus pacientes com TDAH vêm de famílias instáveis - muitas vezes com pais que também têm TDAH. Na concepção dele (e me pareceu razoável), pessoas com TDAH são indivíduos hipersensíveis que necessitam, de forma mais intensa que a maioria, sentir a estabilidade da sua conexão com seu vínculo primário (normalmente a mãe). Se por alguma razão (estresse, ansiedade, conflitos familiares e outros pepinos) a pessoa com quem a criança desfruta do vínculo primário não for estável o suficiente para ela em sua infância, as chances serão grandes de que haja uma intensificação de determinados tipos de comportamento que, por trás da aparência caótica, busca dominar uma vida na qual ela não confia e que, portanto, não sente que pode relaxar.Os aspectos genéticos e ambientais dos primeiros anos de vida também são levados em conta. O autor conta sobre como, por exemplo, a ansiedade de sua mãe durante sua gravidez e primeira infância (ela era judia na Hungria ocupada pelos nazistas) o deixavam inquieto e inseguro, por mais que ela tentasse o confortar com gestos e palavras amorosas e fingir que estava tudo bem.No mais, pretendo fazer outras leituras e me aprofundar no assunto em breve, já que nossa sociedade tem se mostrado tão prodigiosa em distribuir a todos - crianças, pais e avós - o brinde da ansiedade.

  • Jocelyn
    2019-05-03 00:50

    Interesting. Straight forward. The beginning was a little accusatory towards those that raised you but I figure every generation should set aside a little therapy fund for their offspring. The rules are forever changing- parents can never get it 'exactly' right! I enjoyed the chapter on 'Counterwill.' It validated what I already know ;). And I think that chapter has great information for all parents. The book has some good points in it. Bottom line is that you have to work at routines & tactics to increase focus. This book is similar to many self help books in that it could have been much shorter. I used a highlighter marker to sum up what I'll want to reference.

  • Amy A
    2019-04-27 05:41

    The author of this book has some very unique ideas on how to help children with ADD. Basically, it turns upside down the way we are working with our son. Everything that we had heard/read up until now seemed to take care of some short term issues (sometimes), but I never felt like we were making progress toward our son's independence. I have a good feeling about where the ideas and practices in this book are taking us.Our son is 14 and I wish that we had read this book a long time ago. Even if your young child does not have ADD, I feel like there are just some great parenting strategies in this book.

  • Lauren
    2019-05-07 03:37

    I love Gabor Maté's writing.This book broadened my perspective on the role and effect of ADHD in my own life and within greater society, beyond the all-too-familiar medical model. I feel excited and inspired to integrate the ideas and strategies described into this book to foster a more wholesome and self-compassionate way of life.

  • Jorge Rodighiero
    2019-05-15 23:54

    A perfect review of the subject!

  • Sijo Xavier
    2019-04-29 05:02

    Awesome read..felt somebody telling my story..

  • Bre
    2019-05-09 04:42

    This book is an amazing insight into the ADD/ADHD brain. Mate's scientific yet storytelling approach makes it an irreplaceable resource. A must read.

  • Jeanne Kay
    2019-05-10 22:48

    An absolutely essential read for anyone with ADD and for anyone who loves someone with ADD. Contains life-altering, paradigm-shifting knowledge-all dispensed with great clarity and kindness.

  • Sally
    2019-05-03 22:59

    Found thrifting 3-2017