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The following series of lectures draws on linguistics, or the scientific study of language, to show the many ways in which language has a profound effect upon human relationships. These lectures address the various aspects and implications of what Professor Tannen calls “conversational style.” It also looks at the dynamics of specific situations such as the workplace and cThe following series of lectures draws on linguistics, or the scientific study of language, to show the many ways in which language has a profound effect upon human relationships. These lectures address the various aspects and implications of what Professor Tannen calls “conversational style.” It also looks at the dynamics of specific situations such as the workplace and classroom where the role of conversational style is of particular importance.A person’s conversational style includes far more than the words that he or she speaks. Each conversation is composed of contextual cues, unspoken messages, body language, and the rhythms of speech. For the most part, people communicate without a conscious focus on the subtleties of language.Through this course, the complexities of language, and all that language entails, will become more apparent. A better understanding of language, of how we communicate, and of howour ways of communicating differ based on who we are talking to should lead not only to a better understanding of ourselves and of those with whom we have relationships, but should also lead to improved communication. Our language shapes our lives in numerous, complex ways. These lectures help us to make sense of our language and will help to improve our relationships withfriends, spouses, and coworkers....

Title : Communication Matters: "That's Not What I Meant!": The Sociolinguistics of Everyday Conversation
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ISBN : 12948200
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Number of Pages : 368 Pages
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Communication Matters: "That's Not What I Meant!": The Sociolinguistics of Everyday Conversation Reviews

  • Heather Denkmire
    2018-12-16 04:10

    If I believed in a "plan" for our universe (I don't), I'd think this lecture series was "meant for me." It relates to so many of my interests (mis/communication, mis/understanding, language, politics, power, framing, gender, socio-economic class, the social construction of reality, etc.)..."Complementary schismogenesis" (in the realm of sociolinguistics) is my new favorite concept.Not everyone is as fascinated by interpersonal communications as I am, but, if how we speak to each other and how we understand and/or misunderstand each other interests you, this is a great little lecture series.

  • Manifest Stefany
    2018-12-09 12:08

    I didn't expect this lecture to be so humorous as well as deeply engaging. I simply could not stop listening to it. I found myself having a few AH HA! Moments in regards to my interpersonal and business communication. I am looking forward to diving into part two.

  • Alex
    2018-12-18 08:28

    There’s a lot to take away from this lecture series. One of the biggest concepts my eyes were opened to was conversational style. I knew about the differences, but I didn’t have a framework to hang the disparate observations onto. Styles vary significantly by region, culture, and gender. For example, some conversational styles include the use of “I’m sorry” as a standard mechanism to express sympathy and mean “I’m sorry that thing happened or that it made you feel bad” and does not include an apology component, yet we frequently judge people with weakness when coming from a communication style where “sorry” is only used in apologies. Another great concept was complementary schismogenesis. This is where the conversational styles conflict in such a fashion as they drive both parties to become ever more agitated at the other and pushes both to even greater extremes of the same style. For example, one style includes short pauses and a lot of supportive vocalizations against a style that includes long pauses and minimal vocalizations may find the other rude. The short pause person will fill the void and may consider the other uninterested and distance, while the long pause person may consider the other rude, interrupting, and domineering.While this lecture series may not make huge changes in my life, it has given me a framework to understand the differences, and I hope it will make me more conscious of my conversations.

  • Troy Blackford
    2018-11-18 05:04

    This was a very interesting book on Sociolinguistics. It really helps you understand how differing conversational styles can cause rifts and misunderstandings between people in different situations. It was interesting to hear how different styles of speaking and listening can be misinterpreted, and gave a lot of tips for overcoming that. Also, I feel better outfitted now to recognize differing conversational styles, particularly the way different people expect the end of one speaking cycle to be marked and another one from another speaker to begin.Very interesting stuff, and it's clear that Dr. Tannen knows what she is talking about. Recommended.

  • Dan Slimmon
    2018-12-03 10:03

    I'd highly recommend these audio lectures to anyone who makes a habit of conversing with human beings. I learned so much about how sociolinguistic preferences can vary across genders, ethnic backgrounds, and social standings.The lesson that will really stick with me is this. People tend to extrapolate from conversational style to a person's intentions and abilities. But if you instead try to understand the style itself as a valid system with its own logic, it can clear up a lot of misunderstandings and make communication more effective.

  • Marilou
    2018-12-01 10:14

    Started this lecture series yesterday. At, 57, is there hope for unlearning and relearning communication styles? More later. OK, done now. This is an excellent series of talks on communication styles. Tannen discusses the differences in styles due to ethnic background, age, gender. She's instructional but warm and humorous at the same time. It helps to understand how I may be percieved by others as well as realize that my perceptions may not be quite accurate.

  • Cat.
    2018-12-05 07:24

    This is a Modern Scholar course, and I've read a little of Tannen's work, so there wasn't much here that was new, but it certainly gives me a better handle on some behaviors that I can control that impact my interactions with others. Most of it involves more listening, and more awareness.

  • Irena
    2018-11-29 08:09

    I loved this course. Excellent, both in content and in narration. Professor Deborah Tannen presents sociolinguistics' findings on cultural and gender differences between conversational styles in engaging and effective way, but also without dumbing down the topic.

  • Robert Delikat
    2018-12-13 07:20

    I have never read Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus but I cannot help but think this book may be similar. The book is wonderful and will go a long way in helping me to communicate more effectively and think more compassionately in terms of both genders.

  • Bob Page
    2018-11-28 10:16

    Incredibly compelling information on misunderstandings caused by conversational style differences, primarily those rooted in gender. I have already started using what I've learned.