Psychologist and author Nina Brown helps readers who are over-involved with loved ones shield themselves against their emotional needs and start to focus on their own. Does your mother's desire to complain about how thoughtless your father was last night override your need to get to work on time? Do you really have nothing better to do on Saturday night than to ferry yourPsychologist and author Nina Brown helps readers who are over-involved with loved ones shield themselves against their emotional needs and start to focus on their own. Does your mother's desire to complain about how thoughtless your father was last night override your need to get to work on time? Do you really have nothing better to do on Saturday night than to ferry your little brother home from the movies, or help your sister debug her relationship with her boyfriend? If you tend to drop everything in your own life whenever a family member needs you, then you join the ranks of the millions others who are over-involved with their families. Over-involved family members get so swallowed by their loved ones' problems that they often lose sight of who they are and what they really want. This kind of excessive empathy becomes a problem when the needs of others determine every move you make and inhibit your ability to take care of yourself and get on with your own life. In Whose Life Is It Anyway? psychologist and author Nina Brown starts by helping readers evaluate their own family ties and decide if they are too caught up in other's needs.She goes on to provide a variety of techniques to help readers shield themselves from the needs of others, build strong boundaries, strengthen parts of their personalities against a tendency toward excessive empathy, and stay free of dominating or manipulative relationships....
|Title||:||Whose Life is It Anyway?: When to Stop Taking Care of Their Feelings & Start Taking Care of Your Own|
|Number of Pages||:||172 Pages|
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Whose Life is It Anyway?: When to Stop Taking Care of Their Feelings & Start Taking Care of Your Own Reviews
Are you a people pleaser? Are you an easy mark when a friend or relative needs someone to help them do something or take them somewhere? Do you find it easier to “go along” with what others want than to break away from the usual track of your relationships? If so, then this book should definitely be on your “To Read” list. Even if the descriptions above don’t fit you exactly, you should read this book to help ward off things to come or to see if you might be a “sender” who takes advantage of and uses other people.Ms. Brown has put together a very enlightening book. She takes the time to explain how we become overwhelmed, enmeshed and manipulated. She shows us how we are emotionally susceptible and how others seduce us. She helps us to understand that we are really NOT responsible for how others feel when we are no longer willing to be manipulated by them. This manual is filled with useful information that helps us to understand how we have gotten to the point where we are today. It provides ample exercises for determining exactly where we are starting from and then goes on to provide many exercises to increase our psychological strength, emotional strength, etc.I agree with Ms. Brown and feel that her book is right on target. She states that we should help others and that we should be kind and considerate. But it’s when we get out of balance that life becomes a problem. When we let someone use us and have us at their “beck and call” other significant people in our life will suffer, along with us. For example, when a husband lets his mother call and convince him to run a non-emergency errand for her when he has already committed to help his wife finish an important project for which they share the responsibility. Both the husband and wife are the losers in this example. Not that it isn’t good to do errands for an aging mother, but to feel so guilty about not doing whatever she asks, whenever she asks, is not BALANCE.Why we do the things we do is the important question. Are we doing it because we want someone to like us, to continue being our friend or because we feel guilty? The only acceptable reason for doing something is either because we want to or because it is our own responsibility. After all, as the author says, “Whose life is it anyway?”